When Life Happens...

WHEN LIFE HAPPENS...

I don't know why I am writing this but I hope it blesses someone. Over the past few weeks I have been battling with being depressed getting back up again, being embarrassed, pulling myself together again; remembering the past trying to erase things from my mind again and again. But, few days ago, after listening to my pastor preach in church, I decided to study the new Testament of the Bible extensively and intentionally too. I started and I'm now at the part where Jesus taught the BEATITUDES. I had actually read that chapter and was ready to move on to the next but something pulled me back to the 9 Beatitudes. So I decided to stay on it. I took it 2 a day and did a study on on it.

I don't want to bore you with my study but one of the major lessons I have learnt from this study and from trying to practice what I have learnt this week is that when life happens to you, you let it go. Now, I am not saying you should give up or die but you need to set what ever it is free because the truth is you are actually setting your self free.

For me, as a single lady I was okay. I did good in my career, I had side businesses that brought in money, I had successful friends around. I had love, I had a 'sound' relationship with God and all the good you can think of. So, When I got married , I entered into the marriage with the mind set of bliss forever. Forgetting that, life will sure happen. In my case, it started early. The first thing that happened was that my husband lost his job a week after our marriage. I thought to myself, the devil is just trying, my husband will get a job soon. The next that happened was that I got pregnant despite the fact that we planned not to have a baby until after 6 months. And remember, I was the only one working. Now, I should mention that there were pressures from my In-laws too. And, because of the kind of person I am, I couldn't talk to anyone about what I was facing. I cried everyday and I am not exaggerating I cried everyday.My husband and I started having issues that at the end I never could explain why. All I knew was it always starts with a simple conversation and then grows into an argument and then blows up.

What in God's name is happening to me! I asked this question everyday with no answer. it kept getting worse. I got to a state where I could not do my devotion (having a personal time meditating and communing with God). I was just numb. And, when I say numb, I really got to a state where I got used to pain, crying, thinking, even while pregnant. I was confused!

But, after I gave birth, I told God, "I want my son to know the best of You". So, I started studying again, I opened up to my mum, a bit though. I love talking to God more. Though I still falter, but I make conscious effort to get back up again. Though, I still have issues with my husband but I can boldly say that those hot issues have reduced a lot!

Now, back to LETTING GO. You must understand that Life will definitely happen to you and holding on to what ever happens to is just a waste of time you must consciously learn to let go of life itself and this is what I have learnt from the Beatitudes. It is a lesson of releasing everything to be able to get back everything that is best. Let the pain go, let the fight go, let those friends go, let go of everything and let your focus be on you. However, you cannot focus on yourself because you are weak, weak in every sense of it. So you need to get help from someone stronger. And, for me I always run back to God.

If you are reading this and you are at that state where you can't push again, you are just TIRED! I want you to know that JESUS CHRIST went through worse and he came out. Now, he did not just choose to, he did it for you. I have gone through hell myself, but I can write this to you because God has given me himself in  JESUS CHRIST. I have him to always run to for strength, for cover, for help. 

Run to Him now and he will receive you.

MY JOB IS TIRING!

MY JOB IS TIRING!

'Everyone' in Nigeria believes that landing a federal job is a great achievement ; big money! We have also made ourselves believe that civil service is the easiest of jobs. Well, that might be very true but have you considered and ever pondered on the words 'Comfort Zone'?

I joined my organisation with little or no experience in June 2015 but I was determined to put all I have into it and give my organisation the best. That was exactly what I did. I learnt form everyone, gave my assigned tasks my 110% attention, asked questions and did everything that diligence means. Ofcourse, as you would have guessed I became better at what I do despite the fact that I studied an entirely different Course in School. As a matter of fact, I studied English Language as my first degree and here I am multi tasking in a Real Estate company. I grew everyday to love not just the job but the business. And, this became my driving force when I started getting TIRED of the job. The love for what I do and the love for the business pushed me further.

A lot of people working with the so called 'One man business' organisations often feel what I felt at a certain point. I sat down one day to ask questions and research why that should be; because for me, when you know you love something you should not be tired of it. But, I realized eventually that it's a right feeling for most people who are very creative. Creative thinkers and workers usually get tired of doing the same thing for a long period of time and always want to get out of their COMFORT ZONES as quick as possible. For me, the following steps are the steps I took when work became so tiring, boring and frustrating:

1. Think of new ways to do your job: I had to research into what other companies in the same business are doing and I have not been doing. I took time to discuss this with my team and I was able to spice things up a little.

2. Start something for yourself: I realized that I was not really doing anything to improve my life, to upgrade myself because all my focus was spent on getting the organisation going fine as far as my department was concerned. I was so engrossed in getting things done that all my self value has now been sacrificed for the organisation's success. So, I stopped and took a deep breath. I decided to take some free courses on business and learn some graphic designing. I also learnt web development and these things are now a great plus for me as I'm working on starting my own business.

3. Take a break: I got to understand that first there is nothing wrong in being tired and second, you have every right to take a break. Hence, I take time to cool off once in a while. Sometimes, I just go to the movies with friends and family, other times I stay at home to just relax. Though all of these times I get new ideas from my environment, from meditating and all.

I hope these helps you as they have tremendously helped my career. You can also research into what works for you and I would love to know.